Thursday, July 20, 2017

Thursday Musings: Miss Hill


In this YouTube clip, a twenty-five year old Lauryn Hill shares a ton of wisdom that's yet to heard from elders and gurus of the day. Enjoy.

Tuesday, July 18, 2017

Zombie, who's in your head?

"You've got to be observant and aware. FOMO is a bitch. It is subtle, it creeps up on you and if you don't nip it, it takes over, chokes your headspace and traps you in auto-pilot. You don't want to live like that."

Yea, quote me, and pay attention to the content of your inner chatter.

As seen tonight on my Facebook feed
Some of the 30-something year old unmarried women that l know have learnt fear. This is one of the claws of societal constructs that have gradually sunken into our minds, and projected insecurities and pressure on us, and we have succumbed. Subconsciously and over time, we have cultivated "behind the curve" beliefs. Beliefs that because we are not married by a certain age, we are disadvantaged: less competent, less loved, less happy, less fulfilled than our married peers and counterparts. Panic and pity have been programmed into guts as loved ones and media alike repeatedly remind us of our dwindling chances and a closing window of happiness. Or love.


The narrative is distracting, to say the least. As a collective, it misguides us into viewing ourselves and others as saviors and victims. Victims who should pine and long for Captains Save-a-Hoe, Captains Rescue-a-Damsel-from-her-singleness-which-is-the-cause-of-her-distress-and-life's-problems. These drug-like stories lull us into an altered state of consciousness. We all need to unlearn these mental playbacks, and walk free from the games that basic minds play.

Remind me that I can and will choose Love everyday over fear.

Monday, July 17, 2017

Olaoluwatodunmomilarakonitantitilailai

Here for connections that leave souls better, richer, fuller
That Great Love type of friendship that transforms people
We may never get to be 'Rumi and Shams'
And they are not my significant other, will never be
But most importantly, they give in ways that challenge and teach me to be a better human being
And today, I am undoubtedly blessed, wealthy, to have experienced such in my short journey

Thank you :*

Cheers to your long awaited Balanced Monday, Ladun! Let's bring it back baby :)

Sunday, July 16, 2017

Finals and Season Premieres

Hey B,
Mr. I-just-realized-I'm-still-in-love-with-my-ex-after-two-years
This is it
Edakun
Nobody is going to rot away like Jorah the Andal, longing for Dany in the isolation wing*
Nah, B!
Thank you for the memories
We'll take it from here
xo.

Kasa final! - 9ice's voice, or better yet, here's Abba:



*Yup! Game of Thrones is finally back today with Season 7!

For TP

Sending positive vibes to one of my friends who is hurting, and dealing with a loss at this time. Today makes a month since his mum died while fighting cancer for her life. May her soul rest in peace.

Travel Chronicles - Calgary, Alberta, Canada July 2017


Picked up these two books: Coleman Banks' The Essential Rumi, and Thich Nhat Hahn's How To Love last week at the Minneapolis airport, on my way back from Calgary, Alberta after one epic week of celebrated friendship.
Hey! Calgary was so great, I had no idea. The downtown was spacious and modern (I live in New York - I'm easily impressed by almost any other place), impressively cosmopolitan and at the same time managed to offer an old town vibe. Cowtown, as it's popularly called, was hot at this time of the year. The crowd population was youthful, diverse and showed just the right amount of busy (again, I live in New York). Nothing overwhelming, no foul smells. Haha!


Driving some 200 miles west to the Alberta countryside had breathtaking scenic views of the mountain peaks and hiking trails, gorgeous lakes. Banff National Park in the Canadian Rocky Mountains and Lake Louise were two of the spots we visited. Took a gondola ride and did a pseudo hike to the Sanson Peak - Sulphur Mountain summit, which had an observatory building at the top, and overlooked the beautiful town of Banff. Down at the base of the Sulphur mountain was the Banff Upper Hot Springs, which we swam in - and Lala's swimming trunk melted, sort of. Lol!

The weekend marked the beginning of the Calgary Stampede - an annual rodeo, exhibition and festival held every July in Calgary, Alberta, Canada. First of a kind for me, we went dressed as cowgirls and enjoyed the outdoor shows and festival food. A different kind of fun.
Activities aside, the highlight and real fun for me was the bonding time I got with my bestie - the open-hearted conversations, sleepless nights and early morning walks (so worth it) and just being together in-person through milestones. When you live in a different country and continent from your family members and friends, and rely on telecommunications to connect, only then would you know how much you live and yearn and ache for their presence.

Back in New York feeling light-hearted, centered and fulfilled, I caught up on sleep, and then poured the positive energy into a productive work week. Win-win!

Heads or Tails

If all of life is a balance, as Tao, Thầy and the East posit,
- No left or wrong without right, light without dark, fear without love, here without there
What then is the opposite of loneliness? On the other side after you've climbed out of that sunken valley, what's waiting at the top of the hill?
Who?


Until you get to the other end, stay open, soft, naked as you walk the middle
There's a spectrum in-between as the scale tips from yin to yang
Sail through the ands, worry less about the ors
Life doesn't have to be the precise outcome of a coin tossing expedition


In the middle, you will whine
You will battle your ego
You will learn strength, as you let your coverings go
There you will meet with storms will that bring you color
The spells there will give you art
They hold your stretching points where you gather yourself, shed old versions and evolve from student to master
You will ride this one out, and believe me, you will have many more until you are no more. Ha!


Get comfortable with the discomfort
You've been conditioned to fear and retreat from it
Quit wresting, rest with it
Your retreat is waiting there to follow you after you've found it
Selah!

Friday, July 14, 2017

On Coping

Those days when you just need to pull through
Not every day, but one of those low-momentum days like this one
After you've slept at the airport, feeling anxious, disappointed having lost money, and time
You need a hug, and all your friends are family are out of town or country
Tomorrow will be different, but you just need to survive today while you have it
Yoga, sushi, a warm shower and rom-com will close you out beautifully
Choose Love.

3:55am at JFK

Could someone show me the reason why this series of suspicious gragra-centric events led to my 7.45pm flight being delayed, canceled, rescheduled, rerouted, delayed another six hours and then at 1.33am canceled again?

Two police officers are interrogating some random guy who just peed openly in the middle of the waiting area.

I'm stuck at the airport waiting for 6am and sunlight and I'll be on my way home. Yawning, dancing out my sleepless crankiness as Coldplay's Magic plays in the terminal's speakers. Pained, crushed almost and wistful that I don't get to see to my host. God knows I was looking forward to this weekend trip. Heck, I was going bearing gifts. Why did it play out this way? Was I supposed to beat the odds till the end, or retreat like I'm doing?

Will we ever know? You win some, you lose some I guess. The wasted effort is killing me!

Mschew.


Sunday, July 2, 2017

Chill Vibes on Sunday

“If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.”— Lao Tzu