Tuesday, July 18, 2017

Zombie, who's in your head?

"You've got to be observant and aware. FOMO is a bitch. It is subtle, it creeps up on you and if you don't nip it, it takes over, chokes your headspace and traps you in auto-pilot. You don't want to live like that."

Yea, quote me, and pay attention to the content of your inner chatter.

As seen tonight on my Facebook feed
Some of the 30-something year old unmarried women that l know have learnt fear. This is one of the claws of societal constructs that have gradually sunken into our minds, and projected insecurities and pressure on us, and we have succumbed. Subconsciously and over time, we have cultivated "behind the curve" beliefs. Beliefs that because we are not married by a certain age, we are disadvantaged: less competent, less loved, less happy, less fulfilled than our married peers and counterparts. Panic and pity have been programmed into guts as loved ones and media alike repeatedly remind us of our dwindling chances and a closing window of happiness. Or love.

The narrative is distracting, to say the least. As a collective, it misguides us into viewing ourselves and others as saviors and victims. Victims who should pine and long for Captains Save-a-Hoe, Captains Rescue-a-Damsel-from-her-singleness-which-is-the-cause-of-her-distress-and-life's-problems. These drug-like stories lull us into an altered state of consciousness. We all need to unlearn these mental playbacks, and walk free from the games that basic minds play.

Remind me that I can and will choose Love everyday over fear.


Blogoratti said...

Interesting thoughts and perspective indeed. Thanks for sharing and warm greetings!

MissBalance said...

Warm greetings to you too, I appreciate you! @Blogoratti

Jay said...

My! The whole programming growing up was this though. Maybe not overtly but it was there and I for one had this deep seated fear of ending up single - and not even marriage but a simple relationship. When we were not the 'women in their 30s', the message stayed with us like 'i don't want to be this woman' etc...

Woman is grown now though and there's only freedom and a deep seated assurance that I'd be fine single, in a relationship, married, in a situationship or even divorced.